When did it become all about the woman?
If you go back to God’s original intent, women were created for the purpose of being a companion to man as well as a help in bringing man’s purpose to life.
Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.
However, somewhere along the way, women got the idea that this life was all about them. I know that is a sweeping, all encompassing statement but a great many women fall into that category. We even have a cliché that attests to this fact, “If momma’s not happy, no one in the house is happy.”
I know that usually works for married couples but what about the single “I don’t need a man” women. They definitely believe it’s all about them. To those women a man has to prove that he has the goods to be with them and not the other way around. Society even has men giving into this thought process.
Depending on a woman’s marital status you will see her willingness to show her hand. But single women are smart in that they play the role until they get you to commit, then that’s when the script gets flipped. When you are single, it’s all about the man. You get all the sex you want, as much space as she can stand, she might complain but not too much, unless the man doesn’t have a thing going on. To further my point, when the two of you are single she doesn’t bother you about kicking it with your boys, staying out late, watching sports, or whatever your thing is. When you marry them, it’s another story. None of your possessions are nice enough regardless of how much style you thought you may have had. She will slowly find a way to remove your stuff to one room or corner of the house. They are always on you to do more around the house. Stuff only they want done, usually, and if you don't do it, they complain about how sorry you are. I thought the woman was created to help the man, and let’s not even talk about the sex. Sex is the weapon used to keep you in line to make sure you keep her happy. If you aren’t married ask around, the woman uses everything in her power to influence the man to keep it about what she wants. How many women do you know who are pressuring their man to buy bigger and better? Bigger house, better car, more furniture.
Or worse you have the woman who emasculates the man and just runs him over and acts like he just has to deal with whatever she dishes out, especially if he knows what’s good for him. You see it on TV and you see it in real life and if their girls have it and they don’t, then your man ain’t working hard enough. That is just crazy to me. It's amazing with all this going on that women wonder why some brothers say they aren't ready for marriage yet. Could this be the one of the reasons? Despite our failed attempts to communicate with women, men do talk to each other and when it comes to relationships, we sometimes have a lot to say.
All this just sort of hit me as I was thinking one day and I was curious as to what many of you thought about it. I know it has some merit. I've experienced it on some level, but I've seen it at play in a lot of relationships, married and single. I know some of you are even tripping that I would even post a topic like this because in your mind, it is all about the woman and how dare I say different, right? I'm definitely going to pay, right? Well, as I said in my opening, I'm not trying to be chauvinistic or a mule for that matter, but I needed a little levity to drive my point home. So, go ahead, bring on the onslaught. But before you comment, push past my attempt to be comical/cynical and find the truth in what I’m saying and answer the question honestly.
Also, keep in mind that this is not saying that a man shouldn't treat his woman nice or treasure her. That's not my point. I believe in that all day long. What I'm dealing with is the mindset that I think prevails in a lot of relationships and in society and that is that ultimately what she wants is most important and her actions show it.
Holla Back Y'all.