I'm thinking of reviving this "advice column" that I started over a year ago. To see previous letters, view the links to Reading By The Labels and choose "Ask The Rich House." These situations do not reflect my life, but situations that I feel are common in today's society. If you have an issue you would like advice on please send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org with the words "Ask The Rich House" in the subject line. Your anonymity will be maintained and we will let the readers of this blog chime in on your letter. And now, today's letter.
Dear Rich House Reader,
I am a single, 34-year-old male in my first relationship. For most of my life I avoided sexual relationships because I thought I was to be a minister. However, I decided to start dating a woman at work that I've known for 12 years. We've been together for over 2 years now and are engaged. The problem; however, is her youngest son. He's 16 and is known to be a problem child and loves to bully people and instigate fights at school and in the neighborhood. I've tried talking to him about his actions and about whether this has anything to do with me and his mother. He says that he likes me, but his actions say that he doesn't want to share his mother with anybody. People have told me that I am too nice a guy to marry a woman with a mean, hateful child. I have no kids. She has two. She is also nine years older than I. Any conversation we have about her child causes an argument, yet she refuses to go with me to seek advice on step families. She feels that I am looking for excuses to end the relationship, but I love this woman. What help can you suggest?
Frustrated and in love