Ask the Rich House

It's been a minute since I did this, so I thought I'd bring it back for another spin.

Dear Rich House Reader,

I'm a 34-year-old woman currently going through a divorce, not finalized yet. The problem is I married 'til death do us part. However, He moved in with my neighbor and her daughter three weeks after I moved out. They now share a different house together, and he claims he's not sexually active with her. He has been texting me lately that he would like to be with me, sexually. I responded to him in a sarcastic way saying that our neighbor must not be all that good.

I then wrote him that I missed him and would like to go to marriage counseling together. He didn't respond to that. We were married for 13 years and have two beautiful children. I don't want to end up a statistic, but he's leaving us no choice.

What should I say to him the next time he writes me a sexual text message? I am going to counseling and divorce class through our church. I am trying to move on, which is why I moved 1,000 miles away to start over. I'm so confused. I feel played over . . . again.

If you were in their shoes what would you do? What advice do you have for them?

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Shai said...

She needs to just let go. Ignore texts. It is hard and she still has an emotional attachment. She is hoping for something that has since gone. He ain't interested in her or her feelings. He just wants to see what he can get and get away with. She needs to get honest with herself. Yes, the suffering will be hard at first, it is better than giving in to him and suffering even more and longer.

Sheletha said...

Ignore the text.

Mizrepresent said...

I agree with Shai and's time to move on. If he was serious about getting back with her, he would be with her in counseling, living on his own and not with some other woman. They will always want to hit it again, but it's up to her to draw the line on that free milk thing and move on with her life. Dayum, don't you wish sometimes that could block text?

dc_speaks said...

hmmm...change the number girl! Atleast til she can emotionally/mentally take it, then let it be on her terms as to when she wants to communicate.

Of course we will always want to hit it. We think that after we hit, it's ours anyway..."you will never sleep with another man again" is really what we're thinking! All the ladies have already said it, dude is just trying to get all he can get(with extra).

Good topic..great comments!

Shai said...

The number change would not be good. They are parents that have to communicate.

Shai said...

Miz, I wish texts could be blocked. It makes me mad how the phone companies making money off of us. I mean to pay for incoming and outgoing texts is ridiculous, especially unwanted ones. LOL. I know I went off on a tangent.

dc_speaks said...

I know of a divorced couple that only communicate via a number is never an issue! Plus all pertinent information is electronically saved...and kids can talk via webcam and their own emails!

I still hold onto my original fix..change the number!!

Shai said...

DC, SMH. Geez.

CapCity said...

She needs to seek spiritual & psych counseling. Just cuz she leaves him alone doesn't mean she won't turn to the same type...she needs to address & recognize that pattern in herself. But what do i know? I just thank God each day that I don't have kids to bind me to some of my former "learning-challenges".LOL!

California Dove said...

duh? dont text back.

on another note: i celebrated my 39th birthday was last thursday. i noticed that everyone else got a shout out when there birthday came around.

so, can i get sum luv too.

CortneyGee said...

easiest way to get over a man is to get under one sista go on and break someone off a piece .. And givce hubby the peace sign minus one