"You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you. Matthew 5:43-44
The very humorous Katt Williams said it best, (paraphrased) “Haters are doing their job. What are you mad at them for? If you ain’t got no haters, you need to try your best to get some. In fact, I’m trying to get me some more by the summer time.”
You know it’s funny, haters have been around since the bible days and we still have an aversion to them. Yet it’s interesting how haters cause things to get done. If cars could run on hate, we’d have a brand new economy because that is the fuel that gets things moving. How many times have you decided that nothing was going to stand in your way because somebody said you couldn’t, shouldn’t or wouldn’t do something? How many times have you achieved a goal because someone looked down on you and made you feel you were beneath them and therefore not worthy of a thing?
What have you been told you can’t do? Do you really have a passion for it? Do you really love it? Then put in the work to get it done despite what the haters are saying. Pray that God continues to use them for good as opposed to evil. The good being to light a fire up under you.
Now on the flip side, which is where we want to focus today, another reason to love your haters is because they are often more honest than those supposed “friends” you have around you. If they tell you that you talk too much, chances are you do. When they tell you that you ain’t nothing but a man stealing ho. Check that one off two. My point is that unless the person is operating out of pure evil, they are in your life for a purpose. They can help you to reveal the chinks in your armor. And believe it or not, they can help guide you back to a place of righteousness.
We don’t always stay on course like we should. Sometimes we stray off into areas we have no place being. You know it and the haters know it too. You think they don’t want you among them because you outshine them, but have you considered that they are there to push you back to where you should have been all along. You are set apart for a reason. How can you lead when you look and act like everyone else? The haters will tell you, “we don’t want your blankety blank around here anyway.” Are you listening? They are putting you back onto the path of greatness! That story you wrote (to all of you writers out there) that your friends said they liked but that the haters said was garbage. Keep those words in mind to fuel you, but not to push you out the game. You know if it truly measures up or not. You also know if you are doing enough just to get by or if you put in the effort to get you over.
So remember, having haters isn’t all bad. You just have to look at them from the proper perspective. They may cause you to cuss here and there, but they are in your life for a reason. Think about some of the good that your haters have brought you into and reflect with appreciation. Pray blessing into those folk’s life. Pray for their happiness. Pray that God mends their heart because chances are they are hurting from some pain or disappointment of their own. While their words may sound bad to your ears, please believe that God can turn what they meant for bad into something that’s all good.
So, say it with me. “I love my haters.”
About the host:
Rich Fitzgerald is the author of the short story "One to Remember" featured in Love and Redemption (Bloggers' Delight Vol. 1), a collection of short stories by authors who blog. To read excerpts or to order a copy of the title, visit i-Lit. The book is also available on Amazon.