Monday

Another Diary

I was at the barber shop this weekend getting my son a haircut and this video got placed into the player. I was only able to see a small section of it, but from what I could tell it was good all the way through. The video was entitled Diary of A Tired Black Man and some of you may be able to glean some wisdom from it. It's a chance for women to hear what men are thinking, feeling, going through. Check it out. If you would like more information on how you can purchase a copy of the DVD. Click Here

Diary of a Tired Black Man.

Here's a clip on what to expect. If you take the link to their site, you will find more previews and trailers on the film. Also, here's a link to an NPR audio on the movie.





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26 comments:

smoking guns said...

Thats real talk right d'here. Sista's do be playing the brothers that dig them the most to the left and then be wondering why they can't find a good brother. Try opening your eyes for a change.

Sheletha said...

whatever.

Shai said...

Yeah what Sheletha said.

Seriously, both sides are tired. Hell, women been tired a long azz time.

Anonymous said...

I think we're all tired...we all need to communicate...stop playing games and be real...everybody goes around saying "keeping it real" but how many folks are "real?"

Anonymous said...

Sheila, wiser words haven't been spoken. That's the point right there. No one is talking. Everyone is internalizing their pain and then making bad decisions because of it. Relationships require that you die to self, meaning what the other person thinks and feels matters just as much as your emotions.

Don't be close minded ladies, it's not a female bashing session. Men are trying to heal just like you are, but if you are just open to your pain then what will ever be accomplished.

I know on some level everybody is selfish, everybody is out to protect self, but that is why "self" needs to die and make room for "we/us".

The Great Kabooda has spoken (it's a St. Louis talk radio thang)

Shai said...

Funny how things change. I was at this poetry reading and a handful of the male poets were talking to the women. Saying things like even though women have been hurt by men not to make the next one pay. Yet, this one dude said how he was a playa and understands other men have played and hurt women and to give him a chance.

Don said...

I see dude isn't holding his tongue either...lol

I am going to have to check the DVD out. Love real talk. I tend to learn alot from it.

Ticia said...

I am tired of Me, Men, women, hoes, B*tches, everyone...damn.. I am tired..

The government--

Everything...traffic, bad azz kids...

I am tired!

Anonymous said...

Hold on people...trouble don't last always.

jali said...

The most vocal complainers are (IMO) the ones who cause most of the trouble.

There are so many happy couples out there right now that we never hear from. Very satisfied men and women who don't write books, or go on talk shows and don't promote videos. I've been married twice, and most of my contemporaries are still with their original mates.

I have single friends, but I don't think they're anything like the cliches I see in movies or on TV. They're normal, well adjusted people who happen to be alone right now.

I'm responding to the comments, since I'm at work so I can't see the video until I get home.

Anonymous said...

@jali - well received words of wisdom nonetheless. We never hear the shouts from the relationships that are working, just the grumblings from the one's in disrepair.

T. S. Snowden said...

Jali is on point with her comments. Honestly I never hear folks talking about the good stuff of relationships. I am guilty of it myself. Right now I involved with a great guy but I dont discuss it much. You can believe I bitch about the deadbeats on demand though....good food for thought

Shelia said...

lol,lol! That video is hilarious. He is talking so much smack that the brother standing beside him is looking at him in total disbelief and/or amazement at the science that he's dropping.

Either way, he thinks that he's run up on the truth of women, he needs to share this with the women who's truth he believes this is.

Shelia said...

Shelia C

Shai said...

So where the folks with good relationships? Come out and share. I am not in a relationship and all I can say is what I have/am going through right now.

Rich Fitzgerald said...

We are going to have to come up with some nicknames for all these Sheila's.

Anonymous said...

The folks (particularly women) in good relationships tend to stay quiet cause then the bitter broads lash out. I'm happily married and still espouse the same views that I did when I was single. However, the bitter singles often run off at the mouth claiming married women think they're better cause they're married, blah, blah, blah. Unfortunately it's almost unevitable and it gets old QUICKLY. So I'm inclined to shut up and let bitter folks be. I've had women tell me I don't understand cause "the game has changed" since I've been married. Uh yeah - I could buy that if I was a 52 year old women married for 25 years but ish ain't changed that much in the four years since I started dating my now husband.

CapCity said...

I'm trying to practice being more vocal about what I want/need...& hoping it's reciprocated...

but that line: U're like my best friend/brother - I only use that when the dude is NOT attractive to me, but he's nice enough to still be my friend (& I only had one of those anyway;-). hey - i have to enjoy the view, too! LOL!

Mizrepresent said...

As it was said earlier, it is a two-edge sword...i've been and out of relationships, but never would use whatever happened their to define my next one...but i have noticed a lot of game playing, and since Miz ain't no child, i ain't playing. Good post Rich!

Saadia said...

Sounds interesting. I can't wait to check it out!

Lindah said...

I will check on it

Lance said...

awww, shit rich...dis one's mad ez

see, the ladies, jali, femigog & geckogirl are on point cause they're gettin' steady dick and breakin' it off proper with their man. hence, a house is a home.

everyone else who's bitchin'...hmmmm, check out the scenario and you'll find no nigga to keep her mouth shut and a thundercloud over her head! that's where all dis repressive behavior of books, songs and bullshit to curdle up the mind of having things "their" way, based on "their" dreams.

ain't seen the video yet, but hell any man 40+ ain't figg'd it out yet, shame on 'em. he definitely aiming for the sisters, 'cause the brothers don't give a damn.

fo sho... ;-P

Lance said...

just saw the video...hahahaha!!!!

decisions...
decisions...
decisions...

the brother's on point! ;-)

*** who is lance??? ***
i'm that guy yo' mama sez, "if you don't marry him, yous a damn fool!" ;-P

Don said...

Miz wrote:

As it was said earlier, it is a two-edge sword...i've been and out of relationships, but never would use whatever happened their to define my next one...but i have noticed a lot of game playing, and since Miz ain't no child, i ain't playing.

Here: http://www.fileden.com/files/2007/2/27/828177/Aretha Franklin - Dr. Feelgood.mp3

lea78 said...

Lance said
awww, shit rich...dis one's mad ez

see, the ladies, jali, femigog & geckogirl are on point cause they're gettin' steady dick and breakin' it off proper with their man. hence, a house is a home.

everyone else who's bitchin'...hmmmm, check out the scenario and you'll find no nigga to keep her mouth shut and a thundercloud over her head! that's where all dis repressive behavior of books, songs and bullshit to curdle up the mind of having things "their" way, based on "their" dreams.
-----------------------------------So not true, some men just aren't worthy I am guilty of not being able to let mine go. And I know for sure I am a damn good woman, you want this a million times a day, it's all good b/c I do too. You wanna drink a beer and watch the football game, toss me one and I am on the couch with you. Your job stressing you, let me wash your back in the bath and scratch your worries away. yo boys acting salty now since you don't hustle anymore I am always down to ride. So it doesn't matter what type of woman you are if you have a no good ass man that fool will stay just that. And for what that nicca will hit the first thing walking around St. Louis. So you damn right that women are tired, we never get our propers for being able to love hard and unconditionally

CapCity said...

Lea78 - TELL IT, SIS! and don't pay lance no mind - he like stirring up stuff just to hear hisself "talk";-)